Part 1: Boy meets girl

Our meeting was as simple and uneventful as first meetings can be. We met each other sometime after a service at campus fellowship during our undergraduate days in 2011. However, we really saw each other on different occasions. “It wasn’t until I ran into her again at night class that I really took note of her in a more personal way – strangely so, because she was the smallest (respectfully) amongst her friends”. Vice versa, “I remember I really saw him one night during announcements at fellowship and had the most random thought: Oh, I just like that brother. That’s weird, I thought, so I totally forgot about it for another decade“.

Part 2: Brother and sister

We were very cordial while on campus – “he was like a big brother to me” and “she was like a younger sister to me”. We often stopped for chats randomly whenever we ran into each other around campus. We had no strings attached to our friendship – just some innocent brethren level connection. We found a safe space with each other though, and we would just talk and talk about a lot of things; school, family, faith, whatever. “After he graduated, we kept in touch less often but occasionally would still exchange greetings and chat on the phone”.

Part 3: Just friends or more?

The first mention of something more leading to marriage between us was not until five years after our first meeting. “I had seen her the previous year while attending the school’s convocation (which was also hers and my sister’s) and that was when the dynamics of how I perceived her changed. When the event that led to this change in perception happened, I was completely taken aback – it was at the least expected time, so I took time to pray and seek counsel. I didn’t approach her on the subject until a year later”. “Well, I wasn’t expecting him to go that route because we had a purely platonic relationship with a big brother – sister flavor to it, and I could not imagine being romantically involved with him at the time. I couldn’t entertain that possibility so I said no.”

Part 4: The Drift

3 years later….. There had been texts, chats, occasional calls (but more of missed ones) and attempted visits in the preceding years, and by the turn of that season, we were both ready to move on. “I was to move to Ghana to work there for a while and I thought it was high time I moved on from her as well – I had been very patient for the past 3 years after all”. “I was also moving to the United States for graduate school. The incoming season was a very rough one for me – health challenges, leaving my number one support system (my family), dealing with the disappointment of a relationship that never happened, and on top of those, PhD-ing. We grew farther apart after the move and that was okay, I thought. I just took the time to grow into my new space, make new friends and have plenty of conversations with God while doing those. Life was good and I was doing better and better by the day”.

Part 5: Reuniting

Another 2 years passed and all that time, we talked infrequently, and on occasions such as on birthdays, christmas and new year. “It so happened that two of my friends in the US share the same birthday with him. What a coincidence! So while we had a birthday get-together for them in March of 2021, I put a video call through to him to introduce them. It wasn’t a big deal, right? It was just a video call and that was it for another 5 months. I didn’t hear from him until my birthday later in the year”. “Well, when her birthday came around in August, I was only reciprocating the call on mine so I called her too. One thing led to another and it turned out to be a really great conversation. We touched on the forgotten issue and we were on the phone for over 6 hours that night. A week later, we had another 7-hour conversation, and that was the rekindling of our once cordial friendship. However, in an attempt from my end to keep up the pace of our great conversations, she gave a cold shoulder once again by sending a disapproving message of my communication attempts, but I saw beyond that and was unfazed”.

Part 6: Finally, yes

Within the next 3 months, the proposal resurfaced. “I just knew that it was time now so I asked her to  marry me once again after praying about it”. “Well, I was all over the place! It was the least expected turn in my life at that point. It was a time of prayer, seeking counsel, deep reflection and ultimately a change of heart and stance for me. It was really humbling to see God’s intentionality in all the pieces of the story, his persistence, sincerity, genuine love and faith, and to finally accept what He had planned for me. It’s often uncomfortable to change and it was, but as weird as it felt, it was so right and beautiful. I finally said YES”.

Part 7: Love comes softly

It’s been beautiful journeying together through our courtship – embracing the reality of our intertwined paths; learning and accommodating each other and respecting our peculiarities; growing together in many respects; learning to function as one; redefining spaces, relationships and priorities; falling in love. We are forever grateful to the God of our journey and author of our story, and to the men who played their parts all along. We look forward to our lives together till death do us part, and can’t wait to have you share the moments with us as we begin that journey.

Part 2: Brother and sister

We were very cordial while on campus – “he was like a big brother to me” and “she was like a younger sister to me”. We often stopped for chats randomly whenever we ran into each other around campus. We had no strings attached to our friendship – just some innocent brethren level connection. We found a safe space with each other though, and we would just talk and talk about a lot of things; school, family, faith, whatever. “After he graduated, we kept in touch less often but occasionally would still exchange greetings and chat on the phone”.

Part 3: Just friends or more?

The first mention of something more leading to marriage between us was not until five years after our first meeting. “I had seen her the previous year while attending the school’s convocation (which was also hers and my sister’s) and that was when the dynamics of how I perceived her changed. When the event that led to this change in perception happened, I was completely taken aback – it was at the least expected time, so I took time to pray and seek counsel. I didn’t approach her on the subject until a year later”. “Well, I wasn’t expecting him to go that route because we had a purely platonic relationship with a big brother – sister flavor to it, and I could not imagine being romantically involved with him at the time. I couldn’t entertain that possibility so I said no.”

 

Part 4: The Drift

3 years later….. There had been texts, chats, occasional calls (but more of missed ones) and attempted visits in the preceding years, and by the turn of that season, we were both ready to move on. “I was to move to Ghana to work there for a while and I thought it was high time I moved on from her as well – I had been very patient for the past 3 years after all”. “I was also moving to the United States for graduate school. The incoming season was a very rough one for me – health challenges, leaving my number one support system (my family), dealing with the disappointment of a relationship that never happened, and on top of those, PhD-ing. We grew farther apart after the move and that was okay, I thought. I just took the time to grow into my new space, make new friends and have plenty of conversations with God while doing those. Life was good and I was doing better and better by the day”.

Part 5: Reuniting

Another 2 years passed and all that time, we talked infrequently, and on occasions such as on birthdays, christmas and new year. “It so happened that two of my friends in the US share the same birthday with him. What a coincidence! So while we had a birthday get-together for them in March of 2021, I put a video call through to him to introduce them. It wasn’t a big deal, right? It was just a video call and that was it for another 5 months. I didn’t hear from him until my birthday later in the year”. “Well, when herbirthday came around in August, I was only reciprocating the call on mine so I called her too. One thing led to another and it turned out to be a really great conversation. We touched on the forgotten issue and we were on the phone for over 6 hours that night. A week later, we had another 7-hour conversation, and that was the rekindling of our once cordial friendship. However, in an attempt from my end to keep up the pace of our great conversations, she gave a cold shoulder once again by sending a disapproving message of my communication attempts, but I saw beyond that and was unfazed”.

Part 6: Finally, yes

Within the next 3 months, the proposal resurfaced. “I just knew that it was time now so I asked her to  marry me once again after praying about it”. “Well, I was all over the place! It was the least expected turn in my life at that point. It was a time of prayer, seeking counsel, deep reflection and ultimately a change of heart and stance for me. It was really humbling to see God’s intentionality in all the pieces of the story, his persistence, sincerity, genuine love and faith, and to finally accept what He had planned for me. It’s often uncomfortable to change and it was, but as weird as it felt, it was so right and beautiful. I finally said YES”.

Part 7: Love comes softly

It’s been beautiful journeying together through our courtship – embracing the reality of our intertwined paths; learning and accommodating each other and respecting our peculiarities; growing together in many respects; learning to function as one; redefining spaces, relationships and priorities; falling in love. We are forever grateful to the God of our journey and author of our story, and to the men who played their parts all along. We look forward to our lives together till death do us part, and can’t wait to have you share the moments with us as we begin that journey.